A decision in process about whether or not to stop talking with your ex-partner, even though they’re the only person who has understood you; on how it feels when your ex moves on; on managing the opinions of your friends and the difficult contradictions of love.
Subjects: Love, Relationships, Breakups, Indecision
Nationality / Cultural identity: Mexican
Audio transcript
I’ve been thinking all day about this situation and I cannot stop my mind…
Actually, I’m passing for a very bad moment and it’s because I recently broke up with my girlfriend and it was very difficult to me and today is very difficult for me because I feel very sad about it.
I am still talking to her. We are not like a couple, but we treat, we have treatment that a couple has. Well, yesterday we had a problem. She told me that she’s talking to another guy. And she also told me that, like what they did the last time they saw [each other]. And that made me feel very sad because I still love her.
We didn’t want to break up. It was a very difficult situation. She doesn’t feel comfortable with me. And I didn’t feel happy anymore with her. But we broke up because of my fault. I said things that I didn’t want to and I also apologised with her. But I think she got very hurt of that situation.
Most of my friends have told me that she’s very bad for me because she’s making me a bad person and she’s… all the times that we have problems, I broke down a lot. And I think she’s bad for me because she doesn’t want to, like, she doesn’t want to change for me or for save the relationship.
I don’t know what is the best to do. Like stop talking to her and clear my mind and my feelings or still talking to her because sometimes she makes me feel very happy and we do things that only two of us can, and well I am, I’ve been thinking this is the decision. I’ve been thinking all day about this situation and I cannot stop my mind…
About what happened yesterday that really opened my eyes. And, well, I smoked like 10, 11 cigarettes yesterday. I don’t know, it’s very like in my mind, I think that that is the the correct way to do the things but in my heart, I can’t stop talking to her, I can’t get away from her. I really want to be with her because she’s the only person who has understood me like a hundred percent and the only person that I can do the things I really like.
So, I need to think that what I need to do, and what she makes me feel, and what I really want to have for my life.
| Place: Mérida, México | Collection method: Audio interview in person |
| Materials: Edited audio file & transcript | Language: English |
| Date: 25 March 2026 | Decision #260325002 |
Music: Ten and Tracer (2010) Brixton For You. Available at: The Free Music Archive. (Downloaded: 21 June 2025)